A relationship breakup is never fun. No matter whether you are married or not, it’s not a pleasant part of life.
However, if you are married then a relationship breakdown is a little more complicated as you will need to get divorced.
There are legalities to follow and division of properties and money to agree upon via solicitors. If there are children and pets then custody may need to be sought.
Unlike a regular relationship breakup, if you are married then you will need to seek the professional services of a divorce solicitor in London or your location.
Going through a divorce can be a stressful time; even more so if it is not amicable with disputes over monetary division and custody.
However, rather than concentrating on the negatives, it’s vital for your health that you try to remain positive and healthy during divorce.
Surround yourself with inspiring people
Now is not the time for toxic relationships. Sure, people may be intrigued to know why you are divorcing and what went wrong. People are curious. They are also concerned for you.
It can be helpful for you to talk to family and friends about the situation, to process it yourself and to simply offload. You might also want to understand how the divorce process works, perhaps they have experience or know. Unless you’ve been through it, then it’s unlikely you know exactly what happens. If you’re unsure then this online blog article explains the divorce process.
However, if you have friends and family that only focus on the negatives or are hungry for the gossip then keep these toxic relationships at bay.
What you need right now are positive, inspiring feel-good friendships. People who can lift your spirits, make you feel better about yourself and excited for the future.
Surround yourself with people who make you feel great!
Think happy thoughts
It’s easy to dwell on the negatives of the divorce and to go over and over the issues, and of course it can be helpful to get all the negatives out of your system at first, but once they’re out and aired you should concentrate on being positive and moving forward.
Continuously focusing on what went wrong and dwelling on this may keep you stuck in a rut with negative thoughts.
Happiness can be a state of mind. Choose to think happy thoughts.
Focus on the things you are looking forward to when single. Focus on your future plans.
Don’t have any future goals? Make some! Write a list of things you’d love to do with your life and start working on it!
Stay physically healthy
Staying physically active will keep you healthy as exercise has many health benefits, but during divorce it will act as a great stress buster.
“Exercise and other physical activity produce endorphins—chemicals in the brain that act as natural painkillers—and also improve the ability to sleep, which in turn reduces stress.” Source
Exercise can boost your mood and reduce the effects of stress.
If you’re feeling lonely during the divorce then joining a local exercise class is a great way to surround yourself with people and make new friends.
Practice self care
Now more than ever is the time to practice self care. This is time to yourself to look after your own physical, mental and emotional state.
Exercise is one form of self care as it helps with your mental and physical health, so making time to exercise is really important.
There are lots of other ways to practice self care. It could be as simple as taking a relaxing bath by yourself without interruptions. A moment to relax and reflect in peace and quiet.
Life is busy and whilst you may wish to fill your calendar with plans to stop thinking about the divorce, make sure you schedule in some downtime too. It’s also important to rest and relax. Learn to cherish your alone time.
Treat yourself to a massage or spa afternoon. Pop on a facemask. Practice yoga. Walk in the forest. Read a good book. Have a lie in. Eat nutritious foods.
There are numerous ways you can practice self care, just make sure you remember to include it in your schedule.
There are many tips for how to stay positive during divorce, but most importantly you need to focus on yourself, self-care, surround yourself with positive people and focus on your fantastic future plans.
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